Name: Aldana Vercellone
Article: Why men and women argue differently.
Source: Times Online
Date: October 30, 2007
It is a fact that men and women argue differently: A recent study showed that in almost all the cases, while women tend to quarrel about an issue, men tend to bottle up their feelings, and then the argument finishes not being solved.
But, why do we behave differently? US research published in Psychosomatic Medicine, found that more men than women tend to "self-silence" themselves during confrontations when they feel they are loosing control, while women bring up and pursue issues to be talked and analysed because they are usually the ones in charge of the relationship.
Besides, it has been shown that, on average, men are afraid of confrontations and they would rather avoid talking about any topics that may cause an argument, as opposed to women, who would keep on looking for solving any problem.
But despite any kind of generalisation, women also are capable of withdrawing from an argument, and the most popular technique is crying. Men, on the other hand, can become aggresive as the confrontations pent up.
Even though arguments will be always be present in a relationship, there is a thesis in which it is claimed that the differences and disagreements between men and women are not as harmful as the way in which they are communicated.
If a point is winded up agressively, the other person will need to withdraw from the confrontation, and then pattern of pushing-withdrawing-pushing again-and-silencing will keep on occuring and the problems will never be solved.
In my opinion, the key for a healthy relationship relies on communication. If a person does not speak their minds, a feeling of resentment will arise damaging any kind of relationship among the peope involved.
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