Nola Lopez, link: http://www.nytimes.com/As all married couples know marital spats are an inevitable part of married life, but recient studies published in the New York Times newspaper, showed that the way you fight with your spouse can affect your health.
During a 10-year study period of nearly 4.000 men and women in the US, women who did not speak their minds during a fight with their husbands were four times more likely to die. While men keeping quite in those fights did not have any measurable effect on health.
The tendency to bottle up feelings during a fight is know as self-silencing. It has been linked to numerous psychological and physical health risks, such as depression, eating desorders and heart disease.
Other study involving 150 couples in their 60s, that had been married for more than 30 years and had no signs of heart disease, gave as a result that the emotional tone spouses take during a discussion can take a toll on health. For women, whether a husband`s arguing style was warm of hostile had the biggest effect on their heart health. But the level of warmth or hostility had no effect on a man`s heart health. For a man, heart risk increased if disagreements with his wife involved a battle for control.
As a married woman I know that disagreements in marriage are inevitable. So that I share psychology professor, Dr Timothy Smith`s words about the best way of dealing with them. It is, “to do it in a way that gets your concerns addressed without doing damage at the same time”. But there is an important obstacle that should be concidered during a marital spat. To maintain such behaviour involves certain leve of self-control that is not an easy job to do for many couples.
Name: Cristina Soledad Guzmán - Review 1
Source: www.nytimes.com
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